Who doesn't dream of a fairy tale "happily ever after"? Happy endings are something we grew up with and aspire for. But sometimes, despite good intentions, we find ourselves asking "whatever happened to MY 'happily ever after'?" What if things turned into a living nightmare? Weddings are about joyful beginnings. But marriages? You don't get married thinking how it will end. In movies, happy endings usually come in the form of the main characters getting married. But real life doesn't work that way.
Does this sound familiar? The two of you argue about everything - who fed the cat, who didn't take out the trash, who left the iron on - yet your arguments lead nowhere. You call him a jerk. He calls you a nag. You two cannot talk to each other without snapping or biting each other's head off.
Even your family and friends cringe when the two of you are around. One of you sleeps alone in the bedroom, while the other one is sleeping in the other room or on the couch. If this scenario sounds familiar, you might be asking, "How can I save my marriage?" Many people drag their feet and hope that things will just work out. It won't. Not when you keep sweeping problems under the rug.
If you want to save your marriage, then save it. The longer you delay facing your problems, the worse it may get. And it's usually too late when you waited too long. The best thing is to face your problem now. Acknowledge that there's a problem. Don't wait for it to go away on its own. Perhaps you think that admitting there's a problem implies that you're a failure, so it is better not say anything. It's possible that one of you already realizes it, but the other one doesn't. Or maybe both of you know there's something wrong, but to say it out loud means it's true. So once again, no one's saying anything. Then again, it's possible that such intense emotions are being directed outwards in a negative way, instead of the opposite.
Face it. Deal with it.
Acknowledge to your partner that there's a problem. Sit down and figure out what happened. Discuss your issues. Once the two of you have an idea on what led to the current situation, then what's going on will suddenly make sense. You don't need to live your life like a living nightmare. If the two are you are willing to save your marriage, then you just might create your own version of "happily ever after".
Does this sound familiar? The two of you argue about everything - who fed the cat, who didn't take out the trash, who left the iron on - yet your arguments lead nowhere. You call him a jerk. He calls you a nag. You two cannot talk to each other without snapping or biting each other's head off.
Even your family and friends cringe when the two of you are around. One of you sleeps alone in the bedroom, while the other one is sleeping in the other room or on the couch. If this scenario sounds familiar, you might be asking, "How can I save my marriage?" Many people drag their feet and hope that things will just work out. It won't. Not when you keep sweeping problems under the rug.
If you want to save your marriage, then save it. The longer you delay facing your problems, the worse it may get. And it's usually too late when you waited too long. The best thing is to face your problem now. Acknowledge that there's a problem. Don't wait for it to go away on its own. Perhaps you think that admitting there's a problem implies that you're a failure, so it is better not say anything. It's possible that one of you already realizes it, but the other one doesn't. Or maybe both of you know there's something wrong, but to say it out loud means it's true. So once again, no one's saying anything. Then again, it's possible that such intense emotions are being directed outwards in a negative way, instead of the opposite.
Face it. Deal with it.
Acknowledge to your partner that there's a problem. Sit down and figure out what happened. Discuss your issues. Once the two of you have an idea on what led to the current situation, then what's going on will suddenly make sense. You don't need to live your life like a living nightmare. If the two are you are willing to save your marriage, then you just might create your own version of "happily ever after".
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