Monday, 18 May 2009

Get Ex Back After They Cheated On You

By Johnny S Laney

Cheating and infidelity are a big relationship killer. If it happens to you, that your mate cheated on you, this is a big problem. The trust and faith that is essential to intimacy has been broken. You feel betrayed and hurt. Maybe you already kicked out your mate. This is only to be expected.

However, there are many good reasons for making up with an ex who cheated on you. You may have children. You may have put years into the relationship and you dont want to throw them away. Once you have calmed down and thought about it some, you may want to get your ex back into your life even though they cheated on you.

If you want to get your ex back after they cheated on you, there is good news. You can, with some careful work, not only get them back but hopefully make the relationship even stronger.

So to begin, you need to fix the broken trust. You need to resolve the feelings of betrayal. And, with some basic emotional intelligence, you don't need to wait months or years to restore trust, you can do it days.

This article can't go into all the details, but you should know that the key to restoring trust after infidelity lies in taking a few powerful steps. One of those steps is to vent to your ex, to get the hateful and hurt feelings off your chest. This is an important and powerful process. You ask your ex to not argue, and not defend themselves, and to just listen. Then you talk about how what they did made you feel.

Note that you can get coaching on how to do this, because it can feel very uncomfortable, but it is a big part of restoring trust. You have to let your mate know how what they did made you feel in a safe and respected way.

Another very useful tool to repair your relationship is to go see a relationship counselor. You don't have to go with your mate, you can just go alone. Either way, they are trained to deal with issues like this. Feel free to use their services!

The value here is that if you got cheated on, there are ways to repair the damage and save your relationship. You can get back to the love. It will not be easy, but the end result can be worth the effort.

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