We are all in relationships to feel love. That's what we want. This is no great secret. The more love we feel, the more intimate and connected and close our sense of the relationship.
But most of us feel no true sense of control over how much love we can experience or provide for our partner. At first we felt a lot of love and appreciation from our mate. In the courting phase, it was pretty great.
After the initial falling in love phase is over, how we feel loved shifts. Sometimes we feel it, sometimes we don't.
However, there is a way to make each other feel really loved every day. Maybe twice or five times as loved as we normally do. This skill can be called the Love Multiplier.
Feeling much more love in your relationship is not hard. You simply need to discover your structure for feeling loved. You have a structure or personal way for feeling loved. When your partner does this or that you feel loved, when they do other things, you don't.
How this works is that some things make you feel loved and some don't. If a fly buzzes around your ear, you don't feel love. When your mate whispers huskily into your ear you may feel strongly loved. The clue is that some things work to make you feel loved and others have no affect on you.
Is this a revelation or what??
Emotions don't just occur randomly. Feelings get triggered often by various things. Love is exactly the same. Once we figure out which things our mate does that make us feel loved, we can start to feel it much more regularly.
Each of us has a personal or idiosyncratic way that we feel love. Some of us feel more loved with visual displays like when our mate wears lingerie or brings us pretty flowers. Others of us feel loved in an auditory way, with the right music or the right tone in a lovers voice. To feel more love, you just need to figure out what things make you feel loved, and what things you do that make your mate feel loved, and start doing those things on purpose.
There's more to all of this, but with some self discovery you can start feeling more love several times a day.
But most of us feel no true sense of control over how much love we can experience or provide for our partner. At first we felt a lot of love and appreciation from our mate. In the courting phase, it was pretty great.
After the initial falling in love phase is over, how we feel loved shifts. Sometimes we feel it, sometimes we don't.
However, there is a way to make each other feel really loved every day. Maybe twice or five times as loved as we normally do. This skill can be called the Love Multiplier.
Feeling much more love in your relationship is not hard. You simply need to discover your structure for feeling loved. You have a structure or personal way for feeling loved. When your partner does this or that you feel loved, when they do other things, you don't.
How this works is that some things make you feel loved and some don't. If a fly buzzes around your ear, you don't feel love. When your mate whispers huskily into your ear you may feel strongly loved. The clue is that some things work to make you feel loved and others have no affect on you.
Is this a revelation or what??
Emotions don't just occur randomly. Feelings get triggered often by various things. Love is exactly the same. Once we figure out which things our mate does that make us feel loved, we can start to feel it much more regularly.
Each of us has a personal or idiosyncratic way that we feel love. Some of us feel more loved with visual displays like when our mate wears lingerie or brings us pretty flowers. Others of us feel loved in an auditory way, with the right music or the right tone in a lovers voice. To feel more love, you just need to figure out what things make you feel loved, and what things you do that make your mate feel loved, and start doing those things on purpose.
There's more to all of this, but with some self discovery you can start feeling more love several times a day.
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