Sunday, 24 May 2009

Recovering from an Emotionally Abusive Relationship

By Liz Johnson

The road to emotional recovery from any abuse is often arduous. In the case of abusive relationships, you may find the journey even more difficult because your abuser has already conditioned your mind for abuse.

Often, your abusers programming will strip you of your dignity and self-esteem. Your emotional wounds require a lot of time and effort to heal, but nothing is impossible. You must be ready to put everything behind you if you want to start getting back what you lost. Check out the following tips:

Deny what you were told and taught by your abuser. The things fed into your mind all work together to trick you into believing that you are nobody and that you are worth nothing. Convince yourself that you are somebody.

You must understand that you have to change your way of thinking. Understand that there is a positive in every negative. While things may seem grim, you have a whole life ahead of you, and you can make a brand new start. Not many individuals have that option, appreciate it and add value to it.

The next step to recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship is to seek support from your friends, your relatives, or even professionals in counseling those that have been abused. These individuals are great to talk to when it comes to discussing your experiences in the relationship, and how you felt about those experiences.

These people are critical to your recovery because when you acknowledge to them that you have been the victim of emotional abuse, they can offer you valuable advice and moral support to help you cope with your ordeal. Consider the assistance of a support group to keep you from straying from the path of emotional recovery.

You may want to enjoy the activities that you used to enjoy before you got into an abusive relationship. Engaging in leisurely activities can help you rediscover your cheerful self. Self rediscovery is a gradual process but you will get there after expending considerable time and effort on the goal.

Rebuild yourself. Try out activities that do not require you to depend on a partner: Work out in the gym; worm your way in a book; enroll in school.

What makes bouncing back from a relationship difficult and time-consuming is that it requires a lot of things: persistence, dedication, hard work. Although you will experience a number of ups and downs in your journey to recovery, dwell in the positive thought that you are free person again.

Put yourself first. You are your own priority. Do not punish yourself for letting go of your abusive partner. Do not allow yourself to stay stuck. This tip is the best of the lot, because if you make yourself a priority, you will find yourself bouncing back to a normal and happy life in no time.

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