Wednesday, 13 May 2009

Stop Divorce and Save Your Relationship

By Andyl Bergerl

If you want to stop divorce, you have to convince the person what wants to divorce you to give the relationship another try. This isn't always possible, but its absolutely necessary if you have a chance of stopping a divorce. A divorce can be stopped at virtually any stage"before its filed or just before it needs the final paperwork. The earlier you stop a divorce, the more likely it is that the divorce wont be restarted, at least not anytime soon.

In stopping your divorce, you must be able to convince the person to give the relationship another opportunity. If you have been begging your other half to give you the opportunity at trying or pleading for him or her to get back together with you, then you better stop now. This may be counterproductive, if your other half has less resistance to your efforts and will make it easier for him or her to divorce you. But if the pleading that you have been doing probably was not doing anything other than convincing him or her to divorce is a really good idea somehow. Who wants to be around somebody who is behaving in that way?

If you can be mature and be more behave in a pleasant manner, it may possibly surprise your other half and help you bring an end to divorce. You can air out your opinion that you really do not want to go through with the divorce and you want another chance, you can explain in a calm way. Your other half already knows the fact that it is you that is screaming or carrying on would not help your chances. You need to make it clear that you are hurt and very sad, and you really are interested with another chance. You might be astonished on how the other person reacts when you change your behavior.

You can also demonstrate that you have a mature side, that possibly your other half have not seen for several weeks and may propose marital or couples counseling to stop divorce. Counseling has succeeded for million of pairs, and your relationship could have an advantage from it too. If you can get your love one to go along with the couples counseling, then you have valuable time before they file for or make an attempt to settle the divorce to influence them to give you and the relationship another opportunity.

During counseling you'll have the opportunity to show the person why they fell in love with you. You can remind them why you're together in the first place. And if you can show honest effort in wanting to deal with the problems that come up during the counseling and many probably will that might be enough to convince the other person not only to stop divorce temporarily, but permanently.

When you do well with stopping divorce, you must bear in mind that your love one was about to divorce you and it would be simple enough for them to change his or her mind and file for divorce after wards. Already having some thoughts about divorce and maybe even having gone as far as filing for divorce at one time will make the decision to file again much easier. So be conscious of the condition of your relationship, and perchance carry on with the counseling. It is easier to stop the divorce for the time being than to have a good relationship for the long term.

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